Simple effective strategies to help you become mindful of your emotions - to notice the thoughts and feelings that accompany emotions, without responding to them or allowing them to take over
We often start to learn mindfulness skills by focusing our attention on our breath, our bodies, the environment or activities. We can practise being mindful, and eventually, we can learn to start being mindful of our emotions.
Being mindful of emotions helps us to stand back from the emotion, understand it, accept it, not to fear it or struggle against it, and it can have the added benefit of reducing the distress (although the aim is to learn to accept the experience, rather than lessen the distress).
Set aside a few minutes when you can be quiet and undisturbed.
Start by bringing your attention to your breath. Notice your breathing as you slowly breathe in and out, perhaps imagining you have a balloon in your belly, noticing the sensations in your belly as the balloon inflates on the in-breath, and deflates on the out-breath.
Notice the feelings, and what it feels like.
Name the emotion
Accept the emotion. It is a normal body reaction. It can be helpful to understand how it came about. What it was, the set of circumstances that contributed to you feeling this way. Do not condone or judge the emotion. Simply let it move through you without resisting it, struggling against it, or encouraging it.
Investigate the emotion
What thoughts or judgements do you notice? Just notice those thoughts. Allow them to come into your mind, and allow them to pass. Any time you find that your mind is engaging with the thoughts, by judging them or yourself for having them, believing them, struggling against them: just notice, and bring your attention back to your breathing, and to the physical sensations of the emotion.
If any other emotions come up, if anything changes, simply notice and repeat the steps above. Just notice that the feelings change over time.
As you become more practised, you can use this mindfulness technique when you feel more intense emotion.
NOW: Mindfulness Exercise - video
APPLE: A Mindful Response to Thoughts and Feelings - video
NOW - Mindfulness for Busy People
APPLE: A mindful response to thoughts and feelings
The Visitor Mindfulness exercise
Mindfulness Of Emotions - this page as PDF
Mindfulness: A practical guide to finding peace in a frantic world
The Mindfulness and Acceptance Workbook for Depression
The Mindful Way through Anxiety: Break Free from Chronic Worry and Reclaim Your Life
The Mindfulness and Acceptance Workbook for Anxiety: A Guide to Breaking Free From Anxiety, Phobias, and Worry Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness meditation for everyday life
Full Catastrophe Living, Revised Edition: How to cope with stress, pain and illness using mindfulness meditation
Peace Is Every Step: The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life
Useful links
NOW - Mindfulness for Busy People
APPLE: A mindful response to thoughts and feelings
The Visitor Mindfulness exercise
Mindfulness Of Emotions - this page as PDF
Books
Mindfulness: A practical guide to finding peace in a frantic world
The Mindfulness and Acceptance Workbook for Depression
The Mindful Way through Anxiety: Break Free from Chronic Worry and Reclaim Your Life
The Mindfulness and Acceptance Workbook for Anxiety: A Guide to Breaking Free From Anxiety, Phobias, and Worry Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness meditation for everyday life
Full Catastrophe Living, Revised Edition: How to cope with stress, pain and illness using mindfulness meditation
Peace Is Every Step: The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life
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