BACES: Self Care guide using effective CBT strategies
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BODY: Self Care
Taking good care of our physical body means we will be better able to cope with emotional problems.
Our brain gets a boost when we achieve things during the day.
Achievement increases the neurotransmitter dopamine and purposeful activity increases serotonin.
It is therefore very helpful to plan realistic and achievable goals every day, such as those concerning work, choresand study, but we can also set goals and achieve activities relating to Connecting to others and Enjoyment and Exercise.
Very often when we're struggling with our mental health, we can withdraw and isolate ourselves and neglect our relationships.
However, connecting with and/or helping others boosts the neurotransmitter oxytocin which will boost our wellbeing.
Plan to connect with other people every day, particularly with close friends and/or family, but also with the community around us.
It may just be smiling and saying hello to strangers in the street or the corner shop.
You might consider helping out with a voluntary organisation, or find a local support group. You can find out what is available locally from the internet, or at your local library or citizen's advice bureau
It's important to connect face to face, but as a first step, or additionally, we can connect to others via the internet.
When our mood dips and we feel tired, or we withdraw and isolate ourselves, the first things we stop doing are the fun and enjoyable activities. We tend to keep doing those things that drain and deplete us, but neglect those that we enjoy and which energise and nourish us.
Read more about nourishing vs depleting activities.
Aim to do more enjoyable activities. Maybe something you used to enjoy doing (e.g. hobby or sport), or something you've thought you would like to do. It might be something outdoors, or with other people, or maybe just on your own at home.
Add more colour into your life!
If you need more ideas, see the distract page.
When we feel emotional, we get caught up in that emotion - it is difficult to think clearly and see the bigger picture at those times - and we react by doing things that are unhelpful.
It seems like doing those things help at the time, but by reacting the same way all the time, we just keep the problem going. (See more about CBT).
We can learn to react and think differently!
Follow these links and practise the skills:
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Take care of yourself and treat yourself as you would treat a friend. Be kind to yourself and use compassionate and understanding self-talk.
Use the Weekly Planner sheet to plan your days. Set time aside every evening or early morning to set your daily goals, then you can tick them off at the end of the day.
Read more about ACE Activity.
Include practising the new skills as part of your daily goals! It's important that you read, re-read, and practise using the skills, so that when you really NEED then, you'll be able to use them effectively.
Learn effective skills online - The Decider Skills for Self Help online course.
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